Why Psychic Mediums Are So Reclusive (Amanda Linette Meder)

Insights On the Secretive Nature of the Psychic Medium Community

Why Psychic Mediums Are So Reclusive
by Amanda Linette Meder

First things first, mediums are professionally trained sensitives.

Mediums are intensively trained (yes, all professional mediums, like all professional athletes, receive training), to feel.

Our senses are heightened intentionally because the more sensitive we get, the better become at our jobs.

I say and have always said that I have one just fatal flaw…

And it’s how sensitive I am.

When I apply this flaw to my job though, it’s what makes me great.

But when I apply it virtually any other area of my life – a romantic relationship, a friendship or working relationship, watching tv, . . .  and well, that’s why we call it a flaw.

I feel too much.

We, as mediums, feel too much.

But as a professional psychic medium, that’s actually a good thing – it’s my job to feel.

Talking to the deceased, my job is to sense, perceive, hear and see all the things that the majority of people don’t.

Unfortunately, you can’t just apply certain aspects of who you are to one area of your life, and then partition them off from all the rest.

As a whole, mediums are feelers with big hearts.

In fact, if I didn’t feel for people, there’s no way I’d be doing what I was doing now.

If I couldn’t sense the needs of others and then found myself drive to want to help, I would have just kept all my crazy gifts to my ‘lil ol self, and just kept right on with my life.

But in my 20s, a friend suggested that my gifts could help people – and that’s when everything changed.

Choosing to be a medium, just as with any career choice, is a decision that comes with its ups and downs.

On top of that, the mediumship community, like any community once you get down in there, is a small one.

Whenever you really get into any field – like, really get into it – whether it be in math or in academia, there is really only ever like 4-5 people, doing the same thing you’re doing. And in mediumship it’s the same way. Likewise, akin to any job, there are days you’re high flying. You’re making differences in people’s lives, making people cry real happy tears, and healing relationships that we’re once thought unhealable – all through the magic of Spirit.

Then there are other days. Days when a client you took a risk on, yells at you, and spits in your face. There are days, when you learn that a client you really loved, cancels an appointment with you, to book with one of your friends instead. And then there are days, when someone you thought a friend, publicly belittles your teaching program, in order to sell more seats, in their own.

Le sigh.

The day and life of a medium.

As a medium and as a living, breathing woman…who has a heart, a conscience, and a whole lotta lessons still yet to learn – this can really hurt.  But as a spiritual practitioner, taught to feel and think otherwise, you’re caught in a real contradiction, because those feelings, oh those feeling, they can really get to you.

Then things like this happen.

Jaime Franchi, a Long Island Press reporter, befriended medium Theresa Caputo in her hometown in 2014, then publicly betrayed her.

If you aren’t familiar with the story, let me catch you up:

In December 2014, the Long Island Press, a reporting newspaper in the hometown of Television-made-famous medium Theresa Caputo, wrote a glowing review of her for an upcoming event she had scheduled to host the following night. They published this review on their website on December 16, 2014 and you can go ahead and read it here).

The following day, Jaime, the same reporter who covered the first story, went to Theresa’s evening show at NYCB Theatre at Westbury, making sure to take full advantage of the free VIP guest passes that had been given to her by Theresa’s staff.

Not more than three days later, and right before Christmas, Jaime then wrote a scathing second review of Theresa, on the exact same website that she’d previously wrote a glowing one, just 4 days before.

You can go ahead and see the whole thing for yourself here.

Jaime spends a large section of the article linked above attacking Theresa for getting the ~ feeling ~ that someone had drowned, while dismissing a few people who were volunteering information about someone who had died dealing with outdoor related events – she finally settles on someone who died with fluid in their lungs, and that’s when Jaime gets skeptical.

Knowing very little about the mediumship, we can’t blame Jaime here. Going into this, she had very little knowledge on how the spirit communication process works. After all, she’s a specialist in education reporting, not the esoteric.

She, like most people, are unaware of that fact that spirits – lacking a voice box – will communicate complex topics like how they died via how the death felt to them. It’s just easier for them – and they do it by getting close enough to you, then the sensation they are feeling will transfer over, in a process similar to convection. For new mediums this can be confusing, especially when the sensations you get aren’t always what you’d immediately expect.

Let me explain.

This process is uncomfortable for the medium at best, but it’s an easy way for the spirit to to get many of their main points across, so they do it.

To help clear things up for everyone a little more even, a mini-mediumship training lesson:

When a dead person is present and you feel a sensation like you’re drowning, this almost never equates to the person having died of an actual outdoor drowning – but instead, it nearly always equates to someone who died via a fluid in the lungs based illness – like pneumonia.

On the other hand, when someone actually dies via a real, outdoor-style drowning event – such as in a river, pool or ocean – the sensation you get as the medium, feels a lot more like panic, than it does like water filling up inside your chest.

So Theresa was actually right on there.

We couldn’t have expected Jaime to have known that, though. Mediums themselves, let alone anyone else, only learn these types of weird professional nuances after practicing mediumship on their own for a few years. So I give her a pass on that one.

But alas, the article isn’t over yet.

In the article’s own recounting, Theresa came up to Jamie after the show and directed her to a mother and a daughter, also backstage, whose son/brother died at a pool party years before. Theresa had helped these people reconnect with their son and it is here, that Jaime skeptically writes:

Amazing coincidence indeed that this particular woman had possessed one of the few backstage passes {I had also been given}. Perhaps even more so—and pretty convenient, too, I’d say—that Caputo was able to relay this conversation to a reporter who’d witnessed what had seemed to be a pretty big miss earlier.Was this an incredible coincidence or merely an attempt at damage control? For me, this unbelievable experience was simply that: not to be believed. In my humble opinion, Caputo is a damn good performer, and she’s got undeniably likeable sass and charisma. I just don’t think she speaks with the dead.

Jaime – as a New York Times bestselling author of two books, Theresa wasn’t trying to do herself any favors, she was trying to do you one.

Theresa was providing you with the hook-up.

As a writer yourself, you must know by now – articles with compelling emotional stories are more appealing to readers in all genres, across the board. They hold more potential to go viral and they connect with their audiences on deeper, more impactful and memorable levels, than do articles written without a compelling lead or emotional tie-in.

This was a lead Theresa was trying to provide you with, writer to writer.

She wasn’t trying to cover her tracks – she was trying to be nice.

Jaime, Jaime, Jaime.

Le double sigh. 

But thankfully, no lasting true damage has been done here.

The typical “I smell a witch!” finger pointing of olden times didn’t go as far as it used to on this one, because at present moment, Theresa Caputo is still slayin’ it.

The damage happens, rather, when a young medium sees their idol face a modern day public hanging like this.

Situations exactly like the one described above happen every day in both large and small-scale interactions, and this means that mediums, overall, tend to remain a little more guarded, a little paranoid and a little more reclusive than those in the rest of the world.

Some mediums have even become so sensitive to public interaction, that they are guarded even against their own kin – other mediums. And then because of this, many mediums have found a hard time making friends with others in their field – a point illustrated clearly in an email sent over the weekend, from a psychic medium colleague in New Jersey:

Mediums are a tough group to network with. Very guarded and paranoid! I wish they would realize that we can all live next door to each other and we would still see who we were supposed to see! But sadly, that is not the case.


But thankfully, friends, more and more mediums seem to be coming out of their shells these days.

The social stigmas on mediums are changing, and this is making it a safer place for mediums to be.

This is in part thanks to many of the brave mediums who have come before us (I’m looking at you, Theresa Caputo) and many of the New Wave Mediums who have begun to take to the internet to change the way mediums are being perceived.

Ashley, with Light Love and Spirit, Nicole, with Spirit Mountain Medium, and Nancy Brown, with Under the Raven Moon, who, while all new to the spirit-scene, are changing the tide on how their stories are being told, and how they and all mediums are going to be remembered.

The braveness of our peers will help newer, more under-the-cover mediums feel less worried about rejection, public ridicule and people like this guy – someone who has never met, had a reading with, or personally gotten to know any medium in his life at any point, yet, is somehow the world’s expert on them.

Mediums are now, more than ever, feeling more comfortable with sharing. They’re coming out of their shells. And as more and more people do, it will open even more doors for others, who come later.

And the way I see it is: the more, the merrier.

As our community grows larger and gets more vocal, the social atmosphere becomes for us becomes a safer and friendlier place, too – moreso, than it ever has been before.

Amanda Linette Meder